Why I Regretted Announcing My Pregnancy So Soon

telling everyone you're pregnant - we're expecting (Why i regretting announcing my pregnancy so soon)

Finding out you're pregnant is a shock to the system if you haven't already read my finding out story you can read it HERE but it's never as real then when you tell all your relatives because if you want to escape the thought of being pregnant for 30 minutes, you can forget it. The minute you make the call or gather the family around the dinner table to tell them the happy news you better be ready for A LOT of baby talk and A LOT of motherly advice, even if you don't want it (no offense mum and mother-in-law) 

Me and my partner decided to tell our family the day after we found out, which at the time was the most exciting/nerve-wracking thing to do but I'm one of those people that can't keep a secret to save my life and telling them all was wonderful and they all took it so well, I think most of them were more excited than us, especially our mothers! We are very lucky to have such a supportive family, I'm completely aware others aren't as lucky so I count myself very fortunate. 

As exciting as spreading the news was as I look back now and wish to have kept it under wraps for a lot longer than we did, just because me and my partner had decided to go through with the pregnancy it doesn't stop the shock factor and the worrying that you're doing the right thing. I spent days after announcing the news so scared and worried but felt I couldn't express those emotions to ANYONE because I didn't want them to think I was having second thoughts and I was worried my partner was going to have a change of heart too which is 100% harder to do when you've already told everyone so it puts a massive amount of pressure on both of you.

If I could go back and change telling everyone I would of 100% have waited until the first scan because another worry you have is not only the heartbreak you'd feel if anything in the pregnancy was to go wrong but to then have to break 10 other peoples hearts in the process whereas had they not of known they could be more supportive to you during that time than nursing their own hearts and maybe that's a little selfish but no-one is going to be more heartbroken than you and your partner if something was to happen, god forbid. 

Again, I'm so very blessed to have gotten through the first trimester and into the "safe zone" but the ride might have been a lot easier had I've not had the pressure of everyone wanting updates every other day, when in fact I never had any updates, pregnancy has been pretty plane sailing for me (touch wood), I even thought there's no way I could be at one point, which you can read all about HERE.

We waited until after the first scan to tell everyone else like our friends and to share it on social media but even then I didn't feel the need to share the news with the world I was quite happy keeping it our little secret but I felt I had to since my partner shared the news on his social media and I didn't want anyone thinking I wasn't sharing the news because didn't want people to know, not that it even matters what anyone else thinks and that's what you have to remember! If you don't want to tell people you're pregnant, DONT. Do what you want and don't let anyone tell you differently. If I could rewind the time I would have done things differently, maybe next time! 


When did you break the news to your Family/Friends?




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